In this blog we continue the with the effects of words.
As mentioned in our last communication, words stimulate emotional responses. Here’s is what happens. When someone says something to you, especially a “jest,” you react. Your reaction may be immediate in either going along with it, or the opposite if it offended you. Either way a concept in your subconscious was triggered. Once that happened you mind set in motion particular patterns of behavior. As we have stated many times, that pattern will prove the concept that was stimulated as being true.
In my stepfather's situation, this progression led to his eventual deafness as he consciously chose to distance himself from unwanted input. You might be familiar with individuals who embody both tendencies: hearing what they prefer and, conversely, tuning out what they no longer wish to hear.
Hearing, however, is far from a straightforward process. A peculiar aspect is the challenge of conveying information effectively. An old adage, often attributed to Abraham Lincoln, encapsulates this: "I know you heard what I said, but that does not necessarily mean you understood what I meant."
Recently, I encountered this phenomenon while explaining directions to my nephew. I relied on distinct landmarks, a skill honed from my days as a traveling sales representative. After several attempts, I managed to rephrase my instructions in a way that finally clicked with him—an "aha" moment. This illustrates how easily miscommunication can occur, leading to actions that deviate from the intended understanding.
To truly grasp the depth of communication, it is essential to hear the underlying thoughts behind the spoken words. Much like the inclination to hear what we want, there are instances where individuals manipulate communication to evoke specific thoughts or behaviors from you.
In our next post we will demonstrate where this is taking place and what you must do to keep you and your’s safe.